Today I am dragging my feet. For some reason my daughter is not sleeping very good at night. She has never been a good sleeper but the past couple months have been HORRIBLE! Now with a baby this type of behavior is expected, but with a three year old I rather hoped I would be getting at least a little bit better sleep by now. Not the case.
Last night London woke me up every 30 min throughout the entire night. Screaming and crying and she wouldn't say what was wrong. It was very frustrating and I finally found myself yelling at her begging her to just tell me what she wanted. Both of my kids are in a really hard stage and I am afraid I am just not cutting it as a good mom. Garrett and London have such attitudes and it seems that no matter what they just aren't listening very well. On top of that my dog is the worst trained thing in the world so he is just one more body not obeying! I want to get rid of him so bad but I can't because my family is too attached and I would feel bad as well. He just makes my day a lot more stressful.
My other issue is I feel like I am ALWAYS cleaning up the same messes. I can not STAND messes! Haha not a very good mix with a 5 and a 3 year old. I really find it hard to have things even the slightest bit messy but right now my house is a WRECK. And I am way too tired to do anything about it. My absolute worst thing is laundry. I don't understand why I am so bad at it. My kids clothes are always wrinkly and poor Hubby can never find anything. They don't even look in their dressers anymore they just go straight to corner of my bedroom. I hate this about myself. Even if I keep up on it I still manage to have the big pile of laundry vomit laying in the corner of my room. I think what happens is it takes me all day to pick up the rest of the house that I will just set the clean loads on my bed and think I will get to them when I finish the other cleaning. Well that never happens because Garrett comes home and I do homework, dinner, dinner dishes, jammies. ect... and the laundry just gets thrown on the floor and so it begins.
The other problem with me wanting it spotless is that I spend all my time cleaning and cooking that my poor kids end up watching way too much t.v. I just don't understand how people have time for dance classes and sewing and cleaning and cooking and laundry and homework and fieldtrips and dr.s appts. and neverending church activites AND still have a happy welcoming face for poor hubby to come home to. I just would like to know if anyone else has this problem or do I win worst mom of the year? My kids are acting like stinkers with terrible attitudes AND my house is somehow a disaster and I am so tired and worn out. And no I am not apologizing for the poor me's and I know things could be MUCH WORSE. It is my blog so I am complaining dang it. Hmmmmmm
1 year ago
9 comments:
no--you are not the only one that feels this way!! laundry is never ending and right now at this moment there is a corner of "laundry vomit" in my bedroom! it's so hard to keep a balance with everything. give yourself a break--i'm sure your hubby and kids appreciate everything you do and adore their wife and mom!
but i understand-sometimes you just gotta vent!
you are NOT alone. i have some tips for you, so CALL ME!
I think you're a great mom! I remember that for some reason my girls were the hardest at 3. It's like they needed to test every boundary. As for laundry. I hate laundry. Like I really don't like it at all. I can't stand to do it every day, so I have enough underwear and clothes for the fam, and seriously, I only do it once a week. Every Monday, I run it all day long, and after the girls go to bed, I fold and watch tv for a few hours. I hang up most of the clothes, and to make it pretty efficient, I sort by hang up darks..lights.. and folded lights darks etc. That way, when its a hang up load, I dry it for abt 2o min to get the wrinkles out, and then pull it out of the dryer and hang it on a rack right in my laundry room, and transfer to closets. When it comes to folding, I just have jammies undies towels etc to fold. It has helped me a ton.
Shannon, you are so cute! Blogging is the best because you do get to vent! I know exactly how you feel!All I can tell you, is there are lots of phases. Not to dissappoint you, but some things get better, but then there are other things that get hard. A few years ago I was right there with you, with the no sleep! Both of my youngest kids were, and occassionally still are, horrible sleepers.
And I also hated laundry,(and still do) but somehow in the last few years those things have gotten easier. But now I have different struggles with a little bit older kids. Just rememeber this too shall pass. And you are really doing a great job! "Mom" is just a very demanding, and lots of times, thankless job.
You are awesome! Just remember there really is no such thing as that super mom doing "EVERYTHING", with a smile on her face.It may just look like it on the "outside". I have found that lots of us mom's feel the same! You are not alone on these feelings!
Thats right its your blog!!! You can complain all you want!!! Its like free threapy, why do you think I like blogging so much ;D
I'm not going to go into what you are going through being perfectly normal because well, looks like that has already been covered. But I do have one question for you,
is it possible that London is having night terrors?
PS. I like the new look (of your blog ;)
Wow thank you all so much for the kind words of support! It is amazing how a moment of venting can turn into some much needed advice! I love the advice from Gwen about once a week and hanging up most things. And thanks Sonya for letting me know it gets better. :) You are all so amazing and I think being a mom and a wife is so important to have friends. Rose, I have considered that she is having night terrors. Do you have any advice on how to manage those? What are the signs of it? I think I will do some research. Thanks for everything ladies! :)
Hey, Shannie.
Night Terrors were sort of my first thought too. She's at that age where the imagination can -really- start kicking in; she may not be able to tell you what specifically scares her. Sometimes kids have a lot of free-floating anxiety around bedtime (away from Mom and Dad, dark.) Sometimes making the environment feel safe by little bedtime rituals can help -- think about getting some lavender sheet spray and spraying her pillow, let her know it's 'monster away' or 'Mom's with you' spray; whatever works for her.
Oh, and laundry runs off the law of entropy, like dishes do. You have to let go of the idea that it's ever in a state of 'done' and instead think of it like a dynamic cycle. :) The Buddhists say, "Before enlightenment, chop wood and carry water. After enlightenment, chop wood and carry water."
You're a great mom.
Loves,
Courtney
Hang in there Honey we love you just wait til they are teenagers lol Give each other a Hug and Hug the kids for us Aunt Renie and Uncle Bill
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